Spats. Tiffs. Fights. Matches. We all have a different name for all those all too common occurrences in marriage. Not one of us is immune from these episodes, the reason being, we are different. We think differently and react differently. If someone were to tell me that they had a 'perfect' marriage and that they never fought because they saw eye -to-eye all the time, they are either conic liars or severely dislusional.
I can honestly say from week to week, my husband and I do not see eye-to-eye. Minumal 3 times a week. It also depends on the subject matter. You could usually bet that I will be more conservative and for him to be carefree. This does not mean we do not come down to an understanding and agree. Just that most of the time my view is completely different from his.
Does this aggravate me? Yes and no. Yes, because we disagree on the most ridiculous things. For example: The oil in the car needs to be changed this week. I usually have him call to make an appointment and he will take it in. He makes the appointment every time and forgets to take it in. He thinks it is okay and never thinks twice about. He will call another place next time. I disagree because it needs to be done now and that company relies on us for business. As a business owner, keeping your appointments is what keeps the money rolling in.
On the flip side, no. No, because the more we disagree, the better I get to see eye-to-eye...next time. I enjoy being able to learn new things about my husband. It helps me better understand how he thinks and how he will react to something I might say next. Just like any relationship we all have said something that made the other person go through the roof. But if you had the chance to talk it out and seek too understand their point-of-view, then all will be more clear for all future disagreements.
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